Hello @Crusty
Welcome to this band of great ladies who will be here to support you any time of the day or night. So sorry you had to join, it is not a club any of us thought we'd be involved with.
Firstly, take a deep breath. Have you been in touch with BCNA to get the My Journey Kit which is available to you ? You will find heaps in that - but take care to only read the parts as they are applicable to you, try not to read too much and too far ahead as it my not even apply to you.
Good to wait for more answers before telling anyone, especially your children. Then, once you know more you can keep it simple - again, BCNA has resources available to help you with that.
Who will you be seeing in a couple of weeks and can you get an earlier appointment ? The mind is a powerful thing so try to keep busy and not second-guess anything.
There is a group on here for Young Women so perhaps you could join that as well as you can then chat in a more private way.
Feel free to come on-line at any time and good luck - you will be in our thoughts. Remember to be kind to yourself, too.
Summer :)