With extra node involvement, I get that they do not want to be opening you up and running the risk of spreading it further. Chemo should shrink and or kill off parts among the nodes so that seems the safest. Getting a treatment plan does seem to take time but once you are in the system, things start to make progress.
Re seeing grand daughter you can take precautions. In toileting during chemo, make sure you close the toilet to flush. My chemo nurse said micro particles of chemo can be flung around during an open lid flush.
Suck on a Stepsils antibacterial lozenge before visitors and if they are old enough, make them suck on one while visiting too. Hopefully that takes care of colds and flu danger.
Carry a water bottle with you and obviously don't share with the grand daughter. I drank liters of the stuff to quickly flush the chemo poisons out of my body. You don't want your poor kidneys and liver working too hard and water can help.
At the chemo doctor or even while having chemo, ask for a councellor or a psychologist and see if you can have a breast cancer nurse to chat with.
My nurse got so busy she never got back to me and during the last 5 mins of my last chemo infusion they quizzed me with a performance review which I think may have had did you need a psychologist or councellor. I just wanted to get the hell out of there at the time and said no, no to everything. After chemo psychologically I fell in a heap and a psychiatrist diagnosed me with PTSD.
