Waiting for chemo!!
Hi Everyone, I am new to this network. My name is Debbie and I was diagnosed with Invasive ductal carcinoma, grade 2, HER positive amplified, oestrogen and progesterone receptor positive, tumour 23mm,...
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Hi @dougal - I did a mass facebook update and made the statement loud and clear that I am not interested in anyone telling me their "stories" on cancer. My thoughts are - If you choose Chemo - you have to commit to it. It is like studding for an exam or doing anything else really hard - you have to commit. Both feet in. I call it the golden elixir of life. Every breast cancer is so different. I also told people that if people tell me to keep positive I will ignore them. For me it is acceptance. it sucks that the cells in your body lost connection with the mother ship and went rouge. It just sucks. Accept. No one at fault. Just do what you can to provide a healthy environment for your body. Accept new boundary - move on. There will be bad days and hopefully more ok days.
Move on to choosing the path to fix it that is proven and that you can commit to. I choose chemo because for my breast cancer (DCIS + Triple Neg 10 mm invasive Feisty f@cker) the best survival rates proven were chemo, surgery and radiation. I don't have a long treatment but have an increased chance of developing Feisty f@cker version 2.0 within 3 - years post this one. Each cancer is just so different. You will see the oncologist a lot over chemo so don't be afraid or fear that you have all the questions or all the answers on day 1. There is a lot of support. There are side effects loads of them and depending on the treatment there are ways to minimise some. But it is doable.
My priority was - get a oncol. you trust. Commit to the process - it is a marathon. Accept. Ignore the noise - people say dumb stuff. Forgive them - for being humans and feeling unable to help you. I "politely" say - i am sorry but that is not relevant to me. I had people get a bit upset but whatever I focused on the people that are big enough to understand that you have to commit 100% to your path and doubt and what is the latest on google/news is not relevant.
Good luck on your journey I am glad you got the support you need.
Move on to choosing the path to fix it that is proven and that you can commit to. I choose chemo because for my breast cancer (DCIS + Triple Neg 10 mm invasive Feisty f@cker) the best survival rates proven were chemo, surgery and radiation. I don't have a long treatment but have an increased chance of developing Feisty f@cker version 2.0 within 3 - years post this one. Each cancer is just so different. You will see the oncologist a lot over chemo so don't be afraid or fear that you have all the questions or all the answers on day 1. There is a lot of support. There are side effects loads of them and depending on the treatment there are ways to minimise some. But it is doable.
My priority was - get a oncol. you trust. Commit to the process - it is a marathon. Accept. Ignore the noise - people say dumb stuff. Forgive them - for being humans and feeling unable to help you. I "politely" say - i am sorry but that is not relevant to me. I had people get a bit upset but whatever I focused on the people that are big enough to understand that you have to commit 100% to your path and doubt and what is the latest on google/news is not relevant.
Good luck on your journey I am glad you got the support you need.