very very newbie - Im good.. or am i?

Hello and welcome @maureenz ........

I too am very new to this site and the world of Breast Cancer, but I have to say you are in a wonderfully supportive and safe environment here in this forum.... I hope you stay connected here - I have found it to be a great comfort and be able to read the experiences of others and to know that the other members do actually get it!!

Like you I found that dealing with other's emotional meltdowns after I shared my news of diagnosis absolutely exhausting and frustrating....I know that people mean well....but I found it all very hard to respond to as my brain was still trying to absorb the news that I have cancer..........

I got extremely annoyed, and still do, with the comment "oh you'll be fine....just look at such and such - she breezed through her breast cancer".  the other dumb ass comments are in relation to how great it will be to have a new set of perky boobs!!!  I quite liked the boobs I had........

I don't have any pearls of wisdom as in how to deal with this - as we all do  things in our different ways, but I just want to say it is completely normal to feel peeved with our nearest and dearest who can sometimes hinder rather than help and you are always welcome to vent with all of us here!!

Wishing you well on the journey ahead and I hope you stay connected xx

Sal x