Hi @Skbr,
Sorry you are here and have this difficult decision. I cant personally help you with this as i havent been reconstructed. There is a group on here that the admin @Giovanna_BCNA may be able to sort you out with.
One of the other very knowldgeable ladies will probably come on here and give their experiences so hang in there.
Hope you are ok. Its a bit shocking at this point i know and rushed.
My tumour was large and i had a mastectomy but different kind of cancer so I cant advise there either. What i will say is that a mastectomy wasn't as bad as i thought. I didnt react badly to seeing the end result. Will having a lumpectomy allow you to breast feed if you want to have children? Is that a consideration?
Hugs
Michele