Unsure about surgery choice

Sorry to hear you had to join our group. My cancer was agressive and had gotten right up to 5cm which on a tiny breast was huge. The doctor recommended a lumpectomy but I felt my breast had really failed me and just wanted the entire thing gone and got a single mastectomy. I also asked that the other breast be taken but the surgeon refused which as it turned out was wise as mentally I would not have been able to cope with both breasts gone.
The final pathology of the breast showed a suspicious area on the other side of the breast as well and one of my lymph nodes was also positive after all scans assured me they were clear so you never can tell. I had a second surgery to remove all the underarm lymph nodes, just to be sure but none of those turned out positive so we were sure it had not spread anywhere else then.
I developed PTSD after the surgery but the worst of it was dampened with medication which I turned out to be allergic to and I ended up just soldiering on by myself but supported by the wonderful ladies on this group and I got through it. 
Nothing is easy about cancer but you will find a strength you never knew you had and you do somehow muddle through it all. Hugz <3