oh dear, @Miriam17au - definitely not the adventure that any of us had planned - and so many diversions along the way for you
too :( Not fair.
It is a huge shock to the system & can rock you to the core. It is a shame that your surgery is still a few weeks away - as the waiting really sucks, big-time. Try & keep busy doing stuff you really enjoy doing - or start stocking up the freezer with your favourite meals, to make it easier for you when you get home again xx.
All the best with joining the reconstruction group - you'll be able to ask questions there & also see pics of other people's reconstructions, to give you an idea of what to expect.
Feel free to jump onto this thread & check out other areas in the forum that you might be interested in ....
info on what to take to hospital with you, even a link to 'tick sheets' for you to 'self monitor' your own mental and physical health particularly following surgery. We show off our gardens, pets, arts & crafts .... and even manage to have a laugh (we all need a laugh!)
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/23477/a-big-welcome-to-all-our-new-members#latestWhack up any questions you have here, re treatment etc - you can sort of use this thread as your 'diary' of events (if you just keep adding to it til the end of your 'active treatment' xx)
take care & all the best