Totally confused after seeking second opinion

Hi @GinGin, I know a few ladies who went chemo first- didn’t shrink the tumour. By 6mths ,when breast was rescanned,the tumour had actually grown bigger! They needed a mastectomy and then had to do a different chemo.Ofcourse this isn’t the norm but it can happen. So a question might be:how will you know if a particular chemo is being effective ?I had similar pathology to you back in 2003 (neg nodes) had a full aux clearance,lumpectomy,radiation.Cancer came back in the same spot 7yrs later- yes,that can happen too. I then had a mastectomy and chemo + Tamoxifen. That was 12yrs ago and I’ve been fine since. I believe having a really good breast surgeon is important,especially if you need a full node clearance. Mine did a great job and I never got arm lympheodema.
All these bc decisions are awful. Once you have all your questions answered, go with what feels right for you at this time.