To shave for wedding or wait?

I'd be organising your wig....be prepared for the massive shedding by day 17. I got mine cut off as it was so distressing.  It's best they then trim your wig so it looks like your hair suits your face. With tbe hair off I was able yo massage my scslp more easily. You'll need a wig cap under your wig to stop itching. You can buy bamboo ones if you prefer. 

I agree with @kmakm to be ready for anything so you don't worry.
I had caps and scarves and a wig all ready when I first went bald. I have lived in scarves since then, never taking to my expensive wig.

I imagine you have lots to do and cope with in preparation for a wedding on top of starting chemo. You poor dear, life can be crazy sometimes can't it. I'm sure you will be beautiful whatever happens.

I had my mum's funeral not long after I went bald on AC. I wore a scarf and people were lovely about it. 
I think a lot of coping is just having a positive attitude! I've had lots of compliments on how I look in scarves and a bit of makeup. I think people are surprised that you look healthy in cancer treatment!

I've just checked my photos for the timing of my hair loss (I'm Her2 as well and had AC and then Paclitaxel).
My hair held on quite a long time, I didn't shave it off till one day before three weeks after my first AC, so day 20. I think it started to look a bit thin a little before that but I attended a Look Good Feel Better session 17 days after my first AC with hair, I wasn't quite ready to brave the world with none! It was good to see others in the session bald as they were all beautiful and brave and I felt less alone about the transition.
I had dose dense AC - fortnightly - so I'd had a second infusion 13 days after the first, my hair was looking thin day 18, I shaved it day 20. Good luck with it all!

I would also wait and see.  I started chemo and still had hair 3 weeks later,  it was thinner but not bald.  I had it cut shorter but that's it. 
After four weeks it actually became brittle and then broke off in places and my scalp was tender so I shaved it.  You may still have hair on your wedding day. 
I also bought a synthetic wig, a short cropped style which was very light.  Everyone says it looked great but I found it hot, that could have been the chemo though as I had lots of hot flushes.
Congratulations on your wedding, hope your day is fantastic

If it was me I'd take a wait and see approach. For many people the period before and during your hair falling out can bring a great deal of scalp tenderness and discomfort. The last thing you want to be worrying about on the day is being uncomfortable, be it shoes, spanx or scalp! So I'd be prepared for any outcome. Have a gorgeous scarf on standby, a lovely hat, and a wig. There are wig hire places so you don't have to buy, simply rent for the occasion.

The way I look at it is that in years to come you don't want to look at the photos and be reminded of a problem,  but rather see the joy of the day. Do what feels good for you. Congratulations and mazel tov! Let us know what you decide. K xox

PS I had A/C, 15 days precisely before the hair started falling out. I didn’t like the idea of shaving but had a local hairdresser poised with the No 3 clippers. Much easier to handle very short! 

Firstly CONGRATULATIONS!!..now my hair loss tale - I had TC chemo most of my hair fell out between the 2nd and 3rd cycle although not all off it but enough to want to cover it ..I didn't think I would be emotional about, but I did burst into tears and felt like everything had become a little more scary than before, the emotions and carry on only lasted a few hours but I really wasn't expecting to be in mourning for my hair, I believed I was totally prepared but no!!..I'm not sure about the AC, chemo the nurses have seen it many times though..I never went for a wig either so I am unable to help there, although I wish I had sometimes..Wishing you all the best for an amazing day!!

Hi there, congratulations on your wedding, that’s lovely as is your very practical approach - your hair isn’t the most important thing on a day like that. I wore a wig right through summer, but in Melbourne, which can be just as hot as Brisbane but usually much less humid. I had a light synthetic wig, which never felt heavy and didn’t itch. It was also really easy to look after. The Melbourne supplier isn’t much good to you but I am sure there are good options in Brisbane. I would suggest look for a supplier for cancer and alopecia patients, because they know about sensitive scalps, how to adjust your wig when your hair starts to grow back and wearing a wig regularly, not just for a special event. Personally,  I’d steer clear of real hair as such wigs are likely to be heavier therefore hotter (not to mention more expensive). Very best wishes for everything in the future.