This tuff cookie is crumbling

Hi @Melc503

Welcome to the crumb factory. We get it.

Difficult as it is, try not to get too far ahead of yourself just yet. One of the really irritating things about BC is the shifting goal posts. Your treatment will be tailored for you, so be prepared for some changes as your medical team learns more about your cancer. Things may be simpler or more complex than you were expecting. Sorry, that doesn't sound too encouraging, but it pays to take things one step at a time as the evidence is uncovered.

You know, having cancer doesn't change your status on the independence scale. Many of us who have had to go through the whole performance, sometimes more than once, find you can get along with minimum assistance. You can feel like shit and still function, it's a wait and see situation. As before, you don't know until you get there. Generally people cope with cancer the same way they deal with any major upset in their lives; some immediately call everyone they know and circle the wagons, others put the blinkers on and some decide to plough on regardless.

From one control freak to another, it isn't a bad idea to keep the information you give out to a minimum to start with. Having to answer 'I don't know' really burns and can lead to some unwelcome speculation from those who will want to equate your situation with their great aunt Maud, or the woman three doors down. Don't go there until you have to. Once you have a treatment plan really pinned down, it's much easier to resume your 'in control' attitude (on the outside)

Good luck Mxx