Hi Gerryb
Sorry you have found yourself joining our community.....
This experience is certainly an emotional rollercoaster......I know it's really hard to do but try to take one day at a time, surround yourself with good support people.....armm yourself with questions.....and keep asking them until you are satisfied that you understand every little thing!
In regards to the bra....I was a 14HH and after my lumpectomy in January couldn't stand to have a bra on as my drains were put exactly wher my bra band sat!......so I wore two stretch camisole/singlet type tops....no support of course but it kept me comfortable enough......It is frustrating that the post op bras don't accomodate for bigger breasted women....we get breast cancer too! (unfortunately!)....anyways I have now had my double mastectomy and expander surgery and am really enjoying my much smaller "new boobs" ....I can, for the first time in my life wear a crop top style bra!
Remember to breathe.....be kind to yourself.....
Sending you love and light and the very best for your treatments/surgeries
Tracy