Yep I have cancer too. Great! Don't know how to use this website, I don't have time for this. I find myself sitting here. Been crying for a couple of hours now. I shouldn't be because they are so many more of you who are much worse. To put it simply, I have had the ugly bit removed and node biopsy. Wanting for the test results is doing by head in. I am so scared. I know that I am probably going to get through this. I am a very strong and positive person, but this has thrown me for a six. I'm not liking who I'm becoming. I'm an emotional wreck, I'm angry, snappy and tearful while being happy no sad and positive and not so positive. Am I going nuts?

@melony Not surprised to see a post at 5am - you'll often find someone up and on this site during the night. Getting that diagnosis is so hard and then the constant waiting to find out exactly what has hit you and what options you have to deal with it. And there are people on this forum who are at many places on the BC spectrum but we all know what it's like to suddenly have your life turned upside down by this. I felt completely well when I went along to my Breastscreen mammogram. Then life gave me an almighty kick and I've been travelling along this rollercoaster since December and a way to go yet. All I can say is to try to take one day at a time. This forum is wonderful for support, advice, information and a few laughs and the knowledge that people understand what you're going through.

Hello - you're feelings are normal even though you may not think so at this point. Normally @SoldierCrab, one of our valued contributors and moderators would give an intro - it's early so I have copied and pasted for you! Hope it helps as you get a grasp of the website and know that there's always someone not far from the forum to help out!"It is hard when we are first diagnosed... Below are a couple of links to help you find your way around the forum and also how to find a breast care nurse and how to order a MY journey Kit if you haven't got one yet. It can be a a whirlwind when we first get a diagnosed.... Breathe and take it one step at a time. The what and how thread. http://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/14879/the-what-and-how-thread/p1 Breast Care Nurses https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx My Journey Kits and other resources. https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/ BCNA Helpline 1800 500 258 If you have any questions, concerns or require any further information or support please call 1800 500 258. The Helpline is open Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 9 am till 5 pm EST and Tuesday and Thursday from 9 am till 9 pm ESTAlso I will add this link from the BCNA website https://www.bcna.org.au/understanding-breast-cancer/types-of-breast-cancer/Take care

Hey @melony,Welcome. As you can already see the gorgeous ladies here are full of wisdom and warmth. We know that paralyzing fear and uncertainty at the beginning. I had the ugly bit removed, back for re excision to get clearer margins and full lymph node clearance with 5/24 with cancer in them. It does take a while for the sensation to come back. Makes shaving under your arms interesting at the start with no feeling. One of my biggest fears was coming out at the end of it a different person. I too am a fixer, chief renovator, patcher upper of poor old house and farm, head spider, frog and lizard re-locator and auto electrician lol. If you want something fixed...go to mum. If you are anything like I am this is how you will get through all this. I planned jobs and kept fixing stuff the whole way along to distract me from constant thoughts of treatment and helped keep my mind focused. Chemo scares the hell out of everyone at the start. The build up and fear of how your body will react is generally worse than when you actually get going. Seriously does your head in. Once you get your results you will feel a little more in control with a plan in place. It's ok to feel scared, it's ok to cry and scream. It's normal but it will get less and less. You'll get it done and come out the other side a stronger, more bad ass version of the wonderful person you already are.Lots of hugs, one foot after the other, one day at a timexoxoxox

Happy Happy Days. My tests results came in. Margins are clear. Nodes are clear. Has hormone receptors. So its good news for me. Well the best in this situation. Gonna need radium and hormone treatment now. Have to see oncologist for more details. So what I have worked out so far is that I will always have the cancer cloud over my head but today it isn't raining. All you girls are great. Thank you again.

@melony so sorry u have had to join us all here. We all go through through the terror and uncertainty when first diagnosed- I know I did. I found this forum to be great though - no such thing as a stupid question and all the women here are happy to share their own experiences. Big hugs xoxoxo

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kmakm
Member
8 years ago
@onemargie *scuffs feet* Yes Mum...
onemargie
Member
8 years ago
Yes @kmakm you are dreadful at delegation and any offers of help. Let’s not discuss the foot injury again shall we woman! But yes @melony you have had some awesome advice so far.
Definately dont google anything and yes do take help if offered or ask of you need it. It’s all about you right now and that is totallly ok. We all have to adjust to this at some stage. Some of us are more compliant than others (you know who you are)!! You have to take each day at a time love and you will grow yourself a big set of hairy balls to get through this trust me. Big hug Margie. Xx
Faerygirl
Member
8 years ago
Dear Melony, as all the lovely ladies have already added...what you're experiencing is perfectly normal and no you haven't lost the plot! Don't expect to much from yourself.. let go of the reigns for a while and make yourself priority number one! I'm a bit of a control freak(to say the least! :smiley: ) so I know what your saying. One of the ladies(sorry did try to scroll back and re-read) had very good advice...Breathe...
Nothing will feel normal for a while But I promise you... you will be you again! I had a Mastectomy 2nd August 2017 and there ain't nothing this biatch can't do!! Before you know it you will be sitting where I am saying something similar to another who has just been diagnosed.
Take care Melony, my thoughts are with you. XX
Kiwi_Angel
Member
8 years ago
U are never alone when u come on here @melony xoxoxo
melony
Member
8 years ago
Now I'm crying because of all you lovely people, it fills my heart. Thank you so much girls. You all have made me feel way better. I don't feel so alone anymore. By the way I'm an Aries.
Kiwi_Angel
Member
8 years ago
I’m a Virgo
kezmusc
Member
8 years ago
Leo as well @PatsyN
Sister
Member
8 years ago
Leo, here.
Finch
Member
8 years ago
I'm not a Leo, but I am a control freak :)
PatsyN
Member
8 years ago
@melony The crying part is what you'll get used to first. The waiting, you'll never get used to.
Good luck. You're amongst a whole bunch of control freaks here. How many of you are Leo's like me?

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