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Leilani
8 years agoMember
Scared worried and confused
Hi I'm 42 just found out on the 29th august that I have breast cancer.
I'm new to this I have my ups and downs I don't know how to handle this there is days where I cry a lot and then pretend that I am OK but really I'm not my family won't do things that they normally do my son had a family BBQ with his in laws and said he won't go how can he pretend to be happy.
And then there is days where I'm OK I can't really talk to my family about this as all I do is cry
I'm new to this I have my ups and downs I don't know how to handle this there is days where I cry a lot and then pretend that I am OK but really I'm not my family won't do things that they normally do my son had a family BBQ with his in laws and said he won't go how can he pretend to be happy.
And then there is days where I'm OK I can't really talk to my family about this as all I do is cry
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- kmakmMemberPop it on and see how you go @Leilani. Wear it round the house for a bit and if it's uncomfortable you can put in some gauze or somesuch to buffer, or take it off. You'll be right. K xox
- LeilaniMemberThank u everyone for ur support and love and help just wondering as well how long before everyone started to wear there bra after surgery as I'm not sure when it is a good time to start wearing it as its only been just over a week since I had surgery it will be two weeks on Tuesday since I had surgery
- LeilaniMemberThank u so much for ur help I will start doing the exercise with my arm I have been doing the ones that the hospital gave me
- LeilaniMemberDid the doctors say how long it will take to go away. And another question how long did it take after surgery did u start wearing a bra I'm scared to put it on now
- Kiwi_AngelMember@Leilani I still have some numbness in my armpit area and I had surgery in January.
- kezmuscMemberHi all,
Nearly two years after a full clearance. 24 nodes taken and the sensation is almost back completely under my arm and on the back of it as well which was a weird combination of numb in spots and super sensitive in others for a while..
. Still numb just along the scar line so that may not come back but the only time I notice that bit is when I shave. I had good sensation back after 12 months but it is only now that I can feel very light touch. It keeps getting better and better but does take a while.
I find if I don't still do stretching exercises (got a bit slack as time goes on) with that arm up high it will get a bit tight when fully extended so I do my best to do high stretches regularly. Using a light weight is good as well. Just a 1kg hand weight is good. I found that even when it started to feel really good after about 8 or 10 months, lifting at full extension was not really comfortable. It is much better now. Just have to keep working that arm until it gets itself organised.
xoxoxo - SisterMemberThe pain does go way but I've still got the numbness and scrambled sensations 9 months later. I hope that it does improve more but I doubt that it will ever come back completely. Bonus was putting on the freezing MooGoo and not noticing it if I started in that spot!
Oh - I had 8 removed in total - 5 and then another 3 - or 3 and another 5 - no memory anymore 😎 - AnnskiMemberI think it depends a lot on how many nodes are removed and how the surgeon gets to them. I had 20 removed 9 were affected. Then whether or not you have radiation. Radio can make the effects on the nerves etc worse. Almost one year now since my surgery, and underarm area still a bit numb but that's OK, however constantly painful when stretching or using the arm eg for gardening. But I do it anyway of course and put up with the discomfort though gets bad at night and I take a painkiller like Advil to get back to sleep. It may be radiation fibrosis, nobody is sure. But it's tolerable. You may have no problems, don't worry about it, just focus on being kind to yourself and helping your body heal, the sense of confusion and loss of control is the worst thing, you just have to go along with it and try to stay in the moment. It will get better!
- LeilaniMemberThank u for ur help I appreciate it
- AfraserMemberIt can take a while. My underarm belonged to someone else for some time. It's still not really good about detecting heat and cold. Removal of lymph nodes disturbs the nerves and can have quite an impact. Just give it time, which is hard to do I know. Best wishes.