Scared worried and confused
Hi I'm 42 just found out on the 29th august that I have breast cancer. I'm new to this I have my ups and downs I don't know how to handle this there is days where I cry a lot and then pretend that ...
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Hwy @Leilani.
Welcome to the forum. You have already had some awesome advice as usual. Everyone here understands perfectly what you are going through. The start is just plain awful. Up one minute and "Yep, I'm going to kick this things butt" and down in a cloudy fog of despair and tears the next.
The waiting is impossible.
Sometimes, sticking to your routine can be beneficial. When I was diagnosed we had an incredibly busy end of year. My twin daughters 18th birthday, sons 21st, step daughters formal and graduation, a weekend down the coast and then christmas. There were of course some serious ups and downs in amongst all that.
I continued with all the plans, Put a BC talk ban on at all the parties and had a fantastic time. I picked jobs to do around the house, just anything to keep my brain distracted from its horrid thoughts.
If my family could see I was ok, they were ok. I dd all my appointments by myself or with the breast care nurse, that way I didn't have to deal with their emotions as well as my own.
Just remember, there are no rules on how to deal with this. You have to do what is best for you and the family will get through.
You will feel a little more in control once the plan is in place believe it or not.
Keep talking lovely, one step at a time, one day at a time.
xoxoxoxo
Welcome to the forum. You have already had some awesome advice as usual. Everyone here understands perfectly what you are going through. The start is just plain awful. Up one minute and "Yep, I'm going to kick this things butt" and down in a cloudy fog of despair and tears the next.
The waiting is impossible.
Sometimes, sticking to your routine can be beneficial. When I was diagnosed we had an incredibly busy end of year. My twin daughters 18th birthday, sons 21st, step daughters formal and graduation, a weekend down the coast and then christmas. There were of course some serious ups and downs in amongst all that.
I continued with all the plans, Put a BC talk ban on at all the parties and had a fantastic time. I picked jobs to do around the house, just anything to keep my brain distracted from its horrid thoughts.
If my family could see I was ok, they were ok. I dd all my appointments by myself or with the breast care nurse, that way I didn't have to deal with their emotions as well as my own.
Just remember, there are no rules on how to deal with this. You have to do what is best for you and the family will get through.
You will feel a little more in control once the plan is in place believe it or not.
Keep talking lovely, one step at a time, one day at a time.
xoxoxoxo