Hi @rladdley,
Glad to hear surgery went well. I was quite weepy after my single mastectomy. I think for me the medical side of things was a little traumatic. I think however you feel about removing your breasts there will be a reaction and you need to give yourself time to adjust and be very kind to yourself.
In terms of the oncologist recommendations, yes it is full on. I found that information seemed to be fed to me at different times. Maybe it was good because digesting it all at once would have been onerous. The drs are focussed on action. In truth they cant give you a complete diagnosis sometimes until your surgery. Once your treatment begins it becomes a little less scary because at least you then have some experience and it is a known. You will feel the whole gammut of emotions and i just had to deal with it from day to day.
My circumstances are a little different, i had a large tumour so need chemo, radiotherapy, hormones etc for my oestrogen fuelled nasty. Regardless though it is a shock. I never thought it would happen to me and im sure you didnt think it would happen to you. I cried sad tears in the night but ultimately i decided to get on with it and i suspect if you trust your specialist you will too. It is not really what youd prefer to do but it is doable. Brace yourself a bit for the long treatment. I have 2 chemos left out of 16 (20 weeks). You adjust, you manage any symptoms and you keep going. It hasnt always been easy but ive done it and you can too. Be kind and patient with yourself. You are worth it.
Im sure we will all be here for you.
Sending hugs.