Welcome to the club that no-one really wants to join .... I am So sorry to see you here, specially at this time of year, @Elissa - how long ago was your surgery? Once your bandages are removed, the wound area WILL look sore & angry for a while ..... I took lots of pics of mine, both before & after the surgery & it wasn't too long before it 'settled down' - a month or two. My entire nipple was removed & replaced & all the surgery was done 'under it' .... and now, that one nipple is quite hard to distinguish from the other one (3 years down the track) other than it is now 'bigger/wider' than the unaffected one.
If you do detect any swelling, weeping or pus - make sure you get it checked out pronto. I was also given some 'scar minimising' gel that I put on religiously & maybe that helped?
If you whack your town/suburb in your profile, we may have members nearby who can advise you of any services within your area ....
Take care, make haste slowly .... it just takes time xx
Whack up any questions you may have - and all the best for your ongoing treatments xxx