Hi @NotHappyJan,
Love the name by the way :) Not that this ever comes at a good time, but it wants to land right in the middle of the busiest times.
My diagnoses came three days before my twin daughters 18th birthday. I also had my step sons 21st two weeks later, step daughters formal and graduation, then christmas was two weeks after my first chemo. .
I so wish I had been strong enough to hold of telling my daughters until after their birthday but there was just no way I could hide what I was feeling at that time.
Definitely check that insurance out as some of the companies class chemo and rads (Hopefully they wont be needed) as outpatient appointments and don't cover them. Crazy expensive. You can do a combination of both as well, private for the surgery then transfer to public if you need anything else. I did public the whole way and could not have had better care.
The lovely ladies have, as usual, given you a lot of other great advice. Keep on talking to us. We all "get it".
All the best
xoxoxox