Out of control and in shock
Where do I start? I recently changed GPs and was working on a general health check you know the one do these tests everything will be fine no drama - always has been. Trot off for a mammogram and the...
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Hi there @Sarnicad I was diagnosed may 2016 aged 43 stage 2a grade 3 triple negative breast cancer. No lymph nodes involved and scans all clear. I have no family history and qualified for the gene test as I’m under 50, no family history and because of my diagnosis. I tested negative for that. My story a little similar to yours with my left boob always being “my lumpy boob” and I’d had mammograms since turning 40, had a biopsy on one spot the year before I was told that was fine. Went the following year felt the same as you I couldn’t feel anything “new” so wasn’t worried, then whammo...... you have breast cancer!
The crew on here have given you some awesome advice so far so I’ll just add to that. Firstly you must remember the next few months are going to be and have to be about you. You won’t be used to life being like this and you will have to adjust as needed. So make sure you learn to be flexible. Do what you can when you can but don’t overdo it. Chemo for me was like @kmakm shitty but doable I had a different course to you mine was fortnightly for 8 rounds. So here’s some tips
1. Delegate where needed and as required. The family can and will learn to use the washing machine, vacuum cleaner and even the iron. We had our 18 year old son at home when I was diagnosed and he was great.
2. If family or friends ask to lend hand TAKE THEM UP ON IT. Believe me people only offer to help if they want to. You will soon find out which ones are genuine and which ones are full of shit. You will also be surprised at those people who you don’t expect to step up do and those who you thought.might don’t. But don’t get upset with those people you won’t have time too. You just need to focus on kicking your bc well and truly in the balls.
3. Don’t google anything. Take advice from your team. Your treatment plan will be different from someone else’s and how you manage the side effects will be different too. There’s also no stupid questions always ask,reach out if you have too and take advantage of this forum as we all have a story to tell and can hold your hand along the way.
4. Hello fresh is a great idea for the family and will bet them in the kitchen. Your appetite or taste may change whilst your having treatment so if there’s nights when you just feel like toast at least the family will be fed.
5. Let us know where you are so we can advise you on support groups in your area. These offer lots of different services and support for you and there will no doubt be plenty of advice on here about that. Take advantage of them, it’s totally ok and can be hard to say yes to the support they offer but please make sure you do, you will meet some wonderful people along the way. Then when you’re all finished trestment if you choose to you can have something positive to focus on afterwards if you’d like to do some fundraising later on.
6. I have loaned my bandanas to a lady in Newcastle, they then went to Victoria and @salpa
The crew on here have given you some awesome advice so far so I’ll just add to that. Firstly you must remember the next few months are going to be and have to be about you. You won’t be used to life being like this and you will have to adjust as needed. So make sure you learn to be flexible. Do what you can when you can but don’t overdo it. Chemo for me was like @kmakm shitty but doable I had a different course to you mine was fortnightly for 8 rounds. So here’s some tips
1. Delegate where needed and as required. The family can and will learn to use the washing machine, vacuum cleaner and even the iron. We had our 18 year old son at home when I was diagnosed and he was great.
2. If family or friends ask to lend hand TAKE THEM UP ON IT. Believe me people only offer to help if they want to. You will soon find out which ones are genuine and which ones are full of shit. You will also be surprised at those people who you don’t expect to step up do and those who you thought.might don’t. But don’t get upset with those people you won’t have time too. You just need to focus on kicking your bc well and truly in the balls.
3. Don’t google anything. Take advice from your team. Your treatment plan will be different from someone else’s and how you manage the side effects will be different too. There’s also no stupid questions always ask,reach out if you have too and take advantage of this forum as we all have a story to tell and can hold your hand along the way.
4. Hello fresh is a great idea for the family and will bet them in the kitchen. Your appetite or taste may change whilst your having treatment so if there’s nights when you just feel like toast at least the family will be fed.
5. Let us know where you are so we can advise you on support groups in your area. These offer lots of different services and support for you and there will no doubt be plenty of advice on here about that. Take advantage of them, it’s totally ok and can be hard to say yes to the support they offer but please make sure you do, you will meet some wonderful people along the way. Then when you’re all finished trestment if you choose to you can have something positive to focus on afterwards if you’d like to do some fundraising later on.
6. I have loaned my bandanas to a lady in Newcastle, they then went to Victoria and @salpa