We pretty much have kept to the facts and as much positives as we can. Had to delay telling them anything as they were sitting The GAT the week the hammer dropped! They have had some questions that we answered as best we could. I've ordered the my journey kit today and the USB with teen resources on it as well.
One of the 17 yos has high functioning autism which means we are constantly on his back about pretty much everything and constantly having to check his organisation (cause he has none) and nothing but routine routine and more routine helps with that.
Ive already started teaching washing machine to the whole family hopefully it will stick with one of them. We have re started getting hello fresh meals that are easy cook and everyone of them can follow the recipes which gives us 4 easy meals a week. They are all busy teens work school work music and sport our house is completely mental the youngest is an elite gymnast training 16 hours a week plus musical plus two school bands plus an outside instrument plus acceleration at school - when I write that down it's not surprising I'm tired. He is busy but likes it that way.
Schools have been great to date offering counselling and safe places for all of them.
I guess im just being a typical mum and worrying about everything and wanting to control as much as I can