Sorry to see you here, @Lynn1 - you are in the right spot for answers to any question that you care to post.
That's a shocking story about your friend :( I fully understand your need to look elsewhere for your own treatment. I live in rural NSW & went to Sydney for my own surgery, as I wasn't happy to have it done locally.
My surgeon, Dr James French, is Head of Breast Surgery at Westmead Breast Cancer Institute, Sydney, and works out of Westmead, Norwest and Lakeview Private Hospitals in Baulkham Hills/Norwest. He is terrific & is very mindful of an aesthetic outcome, using breast conserving surgery & immediate reconstruction whenever he can.
https://lakeviewprivate.com.au/specialist/dr-james-french/All the best for your decision making. take care xx