It is a shock but most people find it easier to come to terms with it all when they have more details about their diagnosis and proposed treatment. I hope you will do so too. Sadly no family history of cancer (of any kind) doesn't protect as you might hope - I was in the same boat. Also hard with family at such a distance. SoldierCrab has provided some really good links, and they will be lots of people here to help you on the road ahead. Think positive if you can. I had stage 2, HER positive, 5 years ago and just went through my check ups at the end of last year with no evidence of disease (or NED, a word we like!). Best wishes.