Hi @pollytps
Your comment about our carers is important - they are going through a slightly different roller coaster to us - one of the most heartbreaking things for me following my diagnosis was when my incredibly stoic husband cried .
I was initially very selective about who I told but I did suggest my husband tell his closest friends so they could be there to support him and to take him out for some “ me time” for him.
Also Consider seeing a psychologist who specialises in cancer related distress - I had a couple of sessions that were quite helpful.
Also I found the podcasts on here from Dr Charlotte Tottmann - “What you don’t know till you do” on here excellent - she is a psychologist socialising in cancer related distress who got breast cancer and talks about the fresh insight it gave her.
Take care and good luck with the petscan.🌺