Hi @Cherylb, I know this is just the worse phase of all this. I was terrified when diagnosed nearly 2 yrs ago. I cried for 2 weeks and the the roller-coaster of treatment but I am still here.
These decisions are all so personal. All breast cancers are unique and so too are the treatments.
My breast cancer was 2cm, early, no lymph and Her2 negative and hormone positive. It was a grade 3 which is the most aggressive and high return rate. But it was treatable and nearly 2 years down I have no evidence of disease. I chose a lumpectomy and reduction as I was very big breasted. I reduced my other breast a year later so they are similar now.
You have to decide what you can live with and what's best for you. You always phone bcna to discuss or even a counsellor.
Other ladies have given advice which is good. Take each step one day at a time and try not to google as it doesn't help. Breathe deeply and know you will get through this with support from your husband, family and friends. We are all here too. Best wishes to you 💐