The ooze increase might be due to increased activity since home. I really hope all goes well. When they re-excised did they send of for pathology check? I am assuming they have looked at the results but do ask. It's important that any antibiotics on are the right ones.
My breast care nurse at the hospital didn't touch my sutures, but they did have other Registered Nurses working in tbe team.
I agree on writing down who said what and putting in complaint later. It's your right. It might just result in better treatment for you and others in the future.