Hi Kat09, welcome, you will find so much support here. I'm sorry you have had to join. I think I understand a little of how you feel, it is so surreal and I still can't believe it. My story is a little similar to yours. I was diagnosed on 4/10/16 with invasive ductal carcinoma at 42yo. My tumour was 9cm. Due to the large size, I am also having chemo before surgery. I also had a port put in and it was a little tender for a few weeks but now I don't even know it's there. I am 2/3 through my chemo already and my tumour is now estimated to be 3.5cm. I didn't use cold caps so have lost my hair but I went to get a wig while I still had hair so they matched my usual style and colour, so I still look like me, which was important for my two young children. Best wishes on this journey. Big hugs to you. Kate