Welcome @hils - glad you found us. In some ways, this is the worst time, trying to absorb the shock of the diagnosis and then waiting to know what the treatment plan is. Treatment can be challenging but at least it's a plan. And you're right - the biopsy can bloody hurt - mine sent me through the roof as the local hadn't worked over the whole area. It's good that you have someone you trust to go to appointments with you as it's quite likely that much of it will go straight over your head at the moment. Depending on your treatment plan you may want to talk to someone at the hospital about the possibility of accessing help with your husband's care and around the house.
And it's absolutely okay to feel sorry for yourself - it's a monster of a disease but we're all here.
