Hi, so yesterday was my 21st wedding anniversary it was also the day I was told I have breast cancer. I'm going for my core biopsy on Tues then I guess I wait to find out when & what surgery I need. Not really sure how this BCNA works or if i'm doing this right. Broni
Good that you now have a date for your surgery @BroniD - just the waiting can be a real pain, eh?! Try & keep busy between now & then ..... start getting things 'ready' - A nightie that opens from the front, ear plugs & eye mask (hospitals are always very BRIGHT & noisy!) some magazines or puzzles (you can never concentrate on a novel!) If your Breast Care Nurse has provided you with a support pillow, take it with you - it just takes the weight off your affected arm & it will become your best friend when home!!
Take advantage of any offers of help from family & friends - be it cooked meals, mowing the lawn etc. It can be hard at first to accept their generosity - but it just takes the pressure off YOU!
Have you been able to chat with your friend who has had BC? She will have lots of tips for you and full understanding of what you are going thru. I was supported by 5 friends who've had BC (from 5-15 years clear) and they were/are fantastic mentors for me.
Try & keep busy between now & then, doing what you love doing - try not to use Dr Google too much .... everyone's case is so unique, it could just confuse you.
All the best for your surgery - we'll be thinking of you xxxx
Hi @BroniD, sorry you have had your diagnosis confirmed. At least now you can get on with surgery and then have your treatment plan. Best of luck for your surgery on the 13th. Sue x
Time does seem to drag at the start. Unusual that a radiologist told you that without having any pathology in. They don't normally say to much. The sore breast could still be from the core biopsy. Plus I guess we tend to poke and prod at the thing a bit more once we know whats going on. Glad you have some firm dates now.
Good morning, I feel like I have been on this ride for such a long time now with no movement, after reading this online group I've found most peoples journeys have moved very quickly after they were diagnosed. I guess with my journey because my first Radiologist told me I had cancer before she could take my fine needle biopsy, then the Dr who did my core biopsy 5 days later also confirmed that it was cancer..... This was all before I actually received my pathology results. In a way I guess my hubby and I had time to prepare so finally when I spoke with my surgeon on 21st Nov that was nearly 2 weeks after I was first given the news by the radiologist on 8th Nov. After my core biopsy and my MRI I feel blessed that I have a size 8 stage 2 cancer and my surgeon has booked me in for a Lumpectomy on Dec 13th 2018. I have felt my breast is very tender and sore now but wonder if because I now know the Cancer is there it feels sore.... Thank you for listening. -
How Cool!! Another Uke spot to 'drop in on' when I go north next year with my uke & kayak!! @Brenda5 is already on my list - and I sort of remember Agnes Water as being a good fishing spot too .... tho not sure if good for kayaks?? Aren't there crocs up there??
I'd LOVE to meet your Dad & sit in on his group! :) Likewise, if he is ever south of Port Macquarie, let me know!! :) There are uke groups all up & down the coast in most major towns (and some smaller ones!) I gave my husband his uke at 70 & he can play C, F & G7 ....... there are THOUSANDS of songs with those 3 chords!!! ;)
Thank you so much @arpie I'll have a look at the link. My dad started the Local Uke club up here at Agnes Water so I know how good music is unfortunately I never learnt to play an instrument. Never to late to learn my dad says. Yes family and friends have been fantastic, always looking on the bright side but this waiting is so hard. Plus I love a good laugh. have a good day
@BroniD - I am SO sorry to see you here - but everyone here will help you thru with tips - so throw up any question that you have!!
It is a real emotional roller coaster ride - some of your family & friends will be the most amazing support for you - but some others may disappoint you too. I actually didn't tell all my extended family - they will read about my BC run the Xmas Letter next month! LOL You don't have to tell EVERYBODY - just those who 'need to know' and you know will support you. I kept everyone up to date with the one email every few weeks (usually after an appointment.)
Re the emotional bit - like you & @Wonk, I was reasonably strong & in control most of the time over the last 12 months (my husband had most of his stomach removed due to stomach cancer in 2010 & heaps of chemo, so I thought I knew the game plan) .... but there can be little hiccups now & then that will surely test you along the way. They won't necessarily be 'big hiccups' ..... but the flood gates may open wide! Just let it roll .....
Some of my best supporters (other than my immediate family and those here on the forum) were my fishing mates & my ukulele group - who were devastated when I told them. But - I told them straight up - NO TEARS - I only want jokes & laughs & they were terrific. My uke group still performed (with me leading them) at a big Uke Festival just weeks after my surgery & I was fine! When I am with them, playing uke, there is no room for any other thoughts at all!!
There is a really funny thread here called 'Did you Really Say That' .... Feel free to add your own!! https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/17916/is-that-right-did-you-really-say-that/p1 Whoever started the thread (for the life of me, I can't remember who it was!) has since left the forum, but the other comments are still worth reading for a bit of a 'laugh'!! As they say .... You can't cure stupid!!
All the best with your results & meetings with the surgeons - ask if you can record your meetings on your phone (I did with some of them & haven't gone back over them, but have them, just in case!)
You may have noticed that there is a kind of 'dark humour' in having BC ..... I really do think that laughing about it sometimes just helps clear the cobwebs! ;)
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Hello and welcome. One of the things I wanted to add is to just go with the flow. This can be difficult for ladies who like to control or have order in their lives. But treatment, durgetu etc often has unpredictable turns tbat we can't control so tbe sooner we just accept yjings as they arise it's actually less stressful than having a set plan then needing to make another. Flexibility and accepting is key to sanity and reducing anxiety. Kath x
Welcome to our online forum, I am sorry to hear of your breast cancer diagnosis. You have been provided with some great information from our online community members. Hoping that you get your treatment plan very soon.
Unfortunately the link @Romla sent is for health professionals only to order sample My Journey kits. Its not for women who have been newly diagnosed with breast cancer.
If you have the My Journey online tool, then you have the most up to date resource available. Its interactive and provides information that you want to access at this point in time. We no longer have a journal that is provided with the kit. Great idea to get a notebook for any questions you may have for your medical team.
Wishing you all the best with your upcoming treatment.
