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Hi, so yesterday was my 21st wedding anniversary it was also the day I was told I have breast cancer. I'm going for my core biopsy on Tues then I guess I wait to find out when & what surgery I need. ...
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@BroniD - I am SO sorry to see you here - but everyone here will help you thru with tips - so throw up any question that you have!!
It is a real emotional roller coaster ride - some of your family & friends will be the most amazing support for you - but some others may disappoint you too. I actually didn't tell all my extended family - they will read about my BC run the Xmas Letter next month! LOL You don't have to tell EVERYBODY - just those who 'need to know' and you know will support you. I kept everyone up to date with the one email every few weeks (usually after an appointment.)
Re the emotional bit - like you & @Wonk, I was reasonably strong & in control most of the time over the last 12 months (my husband had most of his stomach removed due to stomach cancer in 2010 & heaps of chemo, so I thought I knew the game plan) .... but there can be little hiccups now & then that will surely test you along the way. They won't necessarily be 'big hiccups' ..... but the flood gates may open wide! Just let it roll .....
Some of my best supporters (other than my immediate family and those here on the forum) were my fishing mates & my ukulele group - who were devastated when I told them. But - I told them straight up - NO TEARS - I only want jokes & laughs & they were terrific. My uke group still performed (with me leading them) at a big Uke Festival just weeks after my surgery & I was fine! When I am with them, playing uke, there is no room for any other thoughts at all!!
There is a really funny thread here called 'Did you Really Say That' .... Feel free to add your own!!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/17916/is-that-right-did-you-really-say-that/p1
Whoever started the thread (for the life of me, I can't remember who it was!) has since left the forum, but the other comments are still worth reading for a bit of a 'laugh'!! As they say .... You can't cure stupid!!
All the best with your results & meetings with the surgeons - ask if you can record your meetings on your phone (I did with some of them & haven't gone back over them, but have them, just in case!)
You may have noticed that there is a kind of 'dark humour' in having BC ..... I really do think that laughing about it sometimes just helps clear the cobwebs! ;)
Take care, thinking of you big time xxx
It is a real emotional roller coaster ride - some of your family & friends will be the most amazing support for you - but some others may disappoint you too. I actually didn't tell all my extended family - they will read about my BC run the Xmas Letter next month! LOL You don't have to tell EVERYBODY - just those who 'need to know' and you know will support you. I kept everyone up to date with the one email every few weeks (usually after an appointment.)
Re the emotional bit - like you & @Wonk, I was reasonably strong & in control most of the time over the last 12 months (my husband had most of his stomach removed due to stomach cancer in 2010 & heaps of chemo, so I thought I knew the game plan) .... but there can be little hiccups now & then that will surely test you along the way. They won't necessarily be 'big hiccups' ..... but the flood gates may open wide! Just let it roll .....
Some of my best supporters (other than my immediate family and those here on the forum) were my fishing mates & my ukulele group - who were devastated when I told them. But - I told them straight up - NO TEARS - I only want jokes & laughs & they were terrific. My uke group still performed (with me leading them) at a big Uke Festival just weeks after my surgery & I was fine! When I am with them, playing uke, there is no room for any other thoughts at all!!
There is a really funny thread here called 'Did you Really Say That' .... Feel free to add your own!!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/17916/is-that-right-did-you-really-say-that/p1
Whoever started the thread (for the life of me, I can't remember who it was!) has since left the forum, but the other comments are still worth reading for a bit of a 'laugh'!! As they say .... You can't cure stupid!!
All the best with your results & meetings with the surgeons - ask if you can record your meetings on your phone (I did with some of them & haven't gone back over them, but have them, just in case!)
You may have noticed that there is a kind of 'dark humour' in having BC ..... I really do think that laughing about it sometimes just helps clear the cobwebs! ;)
Take care, thinking of you big time xxx