Dear @Jen79x,
No-one ever expects it. But in the shock and uncertainty you have found a good place to get advice and support. This is a well run site, and everyone here has experienced some part of your story. Focus on words like early stage and celebrate every test that has a good result. Good start with chemo - we all dread that one but many of us like you found it not so bad. The general view is that taxol is easier than A/C, just count them down. It seems like forever at the start but it's not. Plenty of people here can share their experiences with surgery but for now take one step at a time. Thinking too far ahead is exhausting. Telling children is hard - mine was 30 and it was still hard! But again little by little is still the way to go. Best wishes.