Hi :) I joined today because I have only just been diagnosed with breast cancer and feeling very anxious....also because it is my birthday today! That fact just made me cry for most of today. I am fast realising how incredibly overwhelming the information is to take in, and the 'well meaning' support of friends and family is not helping. I have been asked in the past 2 days alone - do I want to be buried or cremated...how will I feel when I loose all my hair from chemo, have I got a will etc etc. Needless to say...it has not helped. My mother got on her mobile in the hospital and was sobbing and ringing everyone she knew and telling them that I had cancer and it was really bad.....I was sitting right there :( So I am looking for postitive support and ideas on where that would be exactly, or just generally to chat to others in the same position.

Hey Newbie, firstly happy birthday!!! It is probably not going to be the best birthday you have ever had, but it's still nice to hear someone say it. I have just reached my one year anniversary of being diagnosed with breast cancer. I had six months chemo and six weeks radiotherapy and am starting to feel back to normal again. I remember when I was first diagnosed and felt exactly the same way you are feeling today. It is very lonely and other people, although they have good intentions, just sometimes say and do the wrong things!!! You will get through this journey, with the help of us ladies on this site, and with the help and support of your friends and family. You need to let the diagnosis sink in first and just feel any way you like. Cry if you want to, scream, throw things, whatever you want. It is a hard road ahead but so many of us have and still are on the same journey and you can get through it!! I wish you all the best in your treatment and recovery and jump on here any time you are feeling down and we will do our best to bring you back up again xxx Best wishes Jo xxx

Angiebelle, I know how you're feeling. I was diagnosed last week as well. What a shock and so much information to absorb! I'm trying to remember that I'm not alone and that the medical people all really know what they're doing. All the best, Jo

Oh Angiebelle, Happy birthday for 2 days ago. Some people are just drop kicks!, We can LIVE with breast cancer. Bad things might happen but if they are not happening today lets stop and ''smell the roses' and give our selves permission to have a good howl and then 5 minutes later find something to laugh about. I'm still in the treatment option stage but a friend said how will your husband feel if you have a mastectomy? When I asked him he said wwwhat? so you think this will affect me more than you ??? It made me laugh. I'm really lucky to have him. I hope you have at least one sane sensitive person in your life. Big hugs , you are not alone. Jen

Thankyou so much for all or your lovely comments. I am amazed at how I can have a quick little sob one minute and then back to laughing the next. I am hoping to have more of option b and less of option a generally!! I do feel a sense of relief that everyone I wanted to know....now knows. The repitition alone of constantly saying the same speech is exhausting....and also how strange it is to feel empathetic to how others react to the news! What a strange journey this already is. Also attemptoing to turn down the volume on the mountain of advice from emails to books that I have been sent. Especially the stuff about diet....because frankly today I have been fighting the urge to fully marinate in alcohol haha! I have loads of support but constantly worry because I live alone and have 2 young daughters to raise. When I pick a challenge I seem to do things to the extreme! Anyway, thankyou again and hopefully I will get to talk and meet some of you on here....because I am also a social little chick :) xxx

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newbie12
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13 years ago
thanks eminem, that is really comforting.
eminem
Member
13 years ago
All you ladies are so brave! When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer all I wanted to do is b where I am today. Past all the horrible treatment and have my hair back again. And here I am, right where i want to be. I took many photos of my bruised chest, my burnt chest, my shaved head, my funny eyebrows. Now I look back with admiration for that girl and what she went through. I'm very proud of her and i'm very proud to say she is me. No matter how bad it seems you will get through it. You will fight it. I was 29 with a 2 year old daughter when I was diagnosed in May 2011. Completely shattered would be putting it mildly. Now i'm 31, my daughter is 4 and I have a short bob like hair do. Apart from another year of hormone treatment all my treatment is finished. But I still get scared sometimes. I'm always feeling for lumps and I'm more than anxious waiting for the results of my yearly mammogram and ultrasound.

Good luck to you all, you'll be amazed at your own inner strenght. I know I was.
eminem
Member
13 years ago
All you ladies are so brave! When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer all I wanted to do is b where I am today. Past all the horrible treatment and have my hair back again. And here I am, right where i want to be. I took many photos of my bruised chest, my burnt chest, my shaved head, my funny eyebrows. Now I look back with admiration for that girl and what she went through. I'm very proud of her and i'm very proud to say she is me. No matter how bad it seems you will get through it. You will fight it. I was 29 with a 2 year old daughter when I was diagnosed in May 2011. Completely shattered would be putting it mildly. Now i'm 31, my daughter is 4 and I have a short bob like hair do. Apart from another year of hormone treatment all my treatment is finished. But I still get scared sometimes. I'm always feeling for lumps and I'm more than anxious waiting for the results of my yearly mammogram and ultrasound.

Good luck to you all, you'll be amazed at your own inner strenght. I know I was.
eminem
Member
13 years ago
All you ladies are so brave! When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer all I wanted to do is b where I am today. Past all the horrible treatment and have my hair back again. And here I am, right where i want to be. I took many photos of my bruised chest, my burnt chest, my shaved head, my funny eyebrows. Now I look back with admiration for that girl and what she went through. I'm very proud of her and i'm very proud to say she is me. No matter how bad it seems you will get through it. You will fight it. I was 29 with a 2 year old daughter when I was diagnosed in May 2011. Completely shattered would be putting it mildly. Now i'm 31, my daughter is 4 and I have a short bob like hair do. Apart from another year of hormone treatment all my treatment is finished. But I still get scared sometimes. I'm always feeling for lumps and I'm more than anxious waiting for the results of my yearly mammogram and ultrasound.

Good luck to you all, you'll be amazed at your own inner strenght. I know I was.
paulag
Member
13 years ago
Hi. I live in Bunbury. Had a mastectomy in September and have my second last chemo tomorrow. Then will have 5 weeks of radiation. Yes life is not the same and never will be. But we are all here!! It is very treatable and beatable. Even the old triple negative type that I have. All of you ladies are strong and wonderful. Just keep powering on!! X
paulag
Member
13 years ago
Hi. I live in Bunbury. Had a mastectomy in September and have my second last chemo tomorrow. Then will have 5 weeks of radiation. Yes life is not the same and never will be. But we are all here!! It is very treatable and beatable. Even the old triple negative type that I have. All of you ladies are strong and wonderful. Just keep powering on!! X
jfimp
Member
13 years ago
Hi newbie 12

I have been stalking these blogs for days, on again off again as my diagnosis changes. Started with weird calcification, then vacuum assisted biopsy, then DCIS - yes it in breast cancer when you are explaining to your husband I was told, then lumpectomy, then whoops it is way bigger than imaging showed now waiting for MX or BMX, just found out it will be way longer to the surgery because of the holidays. So like you I am a teacher but I had finished my report cards, missed the last week at school with the kids though. I managed to go in on the party day but my stomach was churning, I am usually pretty strong about stuff but not so much with BC. I live in Brisbane.
newbie12
Member
13 years ago
thanks jo, I'm building a list of sites to check out in the new year. If you're in brisbane I might even run into you - I'm sure there are better clubs to have joined, but here we all are.

cheers majella
Enjo
Member
13 years ago
My mum has been a volunteer in the cancer council wig library for many years. Another option is to buy a wig from Wigs On Wheels (0431 883 968). I'm probably starting chemo in the new year, currently waiting on pathology results after surgery. I have just ordered some hats from www.beauxchapeauxheadwear.com.au. Hope you find an option that suits you. Jo
newbie12
Member
13 years ago
thanks for the info louise will check them out.

majella

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