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Hi,  I have just been diagnosed with early breast cancer. I have learned so far that it is very treatable but at this stage do not know what that treatment will look like. I had two different types of invasive breast cancer, one being invasive ductal carcinoma and the other invasive lobular carcinoma. It stated that they both were Grade 1 but on the invasive ductal CA it says that the Nuclear is Grade 2. Does anyone know what this means? The other question I have is that my invasive ductal CA was 20mm long or 2cm. Does this push me into stage 2? There is no node involvement.  I am just trying to get my head around it all so when I get to see the medical oncologist for the first time, I have some knowledge around what he is talking about and I can make informed choices rather than be overwhelmed with trying to process emotions. Lymphovascular invasion is absent with both tumours. The invasive lobular CA was only 2.5mm long. I am ER/PR + HER2 - 

The other comment I have is my mum passed away from breast cancer. She was Grade 3, stage 4 with METS. She got 15 months from diagnosis. This is the only script I have in my head. I really need to hear stories from people who are similar to me and what their treatment pathway looks like. 

Lastly, we are a family who lives with high levels of stress and caregiving roles. We are a blended family with five children between us. One adult child was the victim of a crime against her and had to be placed in witness protection. We spent a lot of money protecting her and her children and moving them from one end of the country to the other. We followed to support her. She is in a new relationship with a lovely guy and she has two additional children to him. Her eldest daughter was the victim of sexual abuse and the perpetrator is now in jail for his crimes. My anxiety and emotions will rise when we learn that he is granted parole. Two of our adult sons have a severe intellectual disability. They live at home with us. They are generally very good with good structure and boundaries. My daughter lives at home with us with her little boy who turns 4 soon. She is doing her teaching degree. We also have started to support my nephew and his girlfriend. They have just moved in and we are not asking for board or rent in lieu of participation in household chores and their share of cooking. We plan to support my nephew into his first job and his girlfriend into the TAFE course that she wants to do. That’s a lot on our plate in addition to my diagnosis, but I think it will work. 

Any stories that describe the treatments that was recommended to you and snippets of wisdom would be really helpful and appreciated.