Welcome @Janine60,
I too have a blended family of 5. I have twin daughters and my husband has 2 daughters and a son which have all lived with us since they were little. They are all young adults now (18-22) with 4 still living at home. Blended families can be tough at the best of times which I am sure you know. You must be one organised, generous, caring wonder woman as it is! It never failes to amaze me the strength and selflessness that women have.
So sorry to hear about your mum, but as you read through the posts you will see everyones story can have similarities but are all unique in there own way and there are many many woman on here down the track a number of years cancer free and back doing everything they love.
I had a 19mm breast lesion and 25mm lymph node one (I found this one first) . IDC & DCIS ER/PR+ HER-. I had lumpectomy and lymph node clearance. Pathology came back as grade 2 stage 2. Turned out there were 5 nodes involved.
So lumpectomy, re excision to get better margins, 6 months chemo and 6 weeks radiation was the prize for that one. Hopefully you will luck out on the chemo.
I have been on hormone therapy for 5months. 15 months on and all scans clear.
Lots of hugs and take some time to look after yourself. XOXOXO