Hi @crafty. Welcome to the forum. I just read your post about biting your tongue about household things and not looking at your garden too closely. I can totally relate to those comments! This year was my first year of completely dead garlic - that would be about 50 bulbs and totally unimpressive blueberries. Plus a plethora of other plants that did not do well. You know what? I am kinda happy - shows the plants need me and my husband is crap at gardening....there is always next year!! It shall return to it's former glory when you can love it. You must love yourself right now.