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Hi all I was diagnosed with Early BC on 1 Aug and had my surgery last Friday 11 Aug. Am home now feeling sore, tired and still overwhelmed. Most of all I feel guilty that I can't look after my family...
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Hi @Dessi
Yes it’s all a whirlwind and it takes time to adjust .
Given your diagnosis was only 1 August you would very definately still be in the shock/ “how can this be happening to me? “ stage .
I liken the whole thing to be a bit like when a loved one dies as you are grieving for your formerly bulletproof self.
This is a time to look after yourself both physically and emotionally and be a bit selfish I was lucky that I was 62 on diagnosis , semi retired with a retired hubby and no dependants.
I stayed in my pyjamas quite a bit after my surgeries ( mastectomy and then later after recovering from radiotherapy , DIEP flap reconstruction) and if the doorbell rang I’d just say “ sorry about the PJs I just had surgery”.
I told people I wasn’t ready for visitors but phone calls and texts were appreciated.
I used my hubby to sone extent as gatekeeper.
This website and forum is a wealth of information , it took me a while to work my way all around it.
I thoroughly recommend the podcasts by Dr Charlotte Tottman on here “ What you don’t know until you do” - she is a clinical psychologist specialising in cancer related distress who herself got breast cancer.
There is also a blog and book by a UK breast cancer surgeon Dr Liz O’Riordan who got breast cancer I found very helpful.
And you can post anything on here , we all “ get it” in a way people who have not faced this diagnosis never really can .
Take care 🌺
Yes it’s all a whirlwind and it takes time to adjust .
Given your diagnosis was only 1 August you would very definately still be in the shock/ “how can this be happening to me? “ stage .
I liken the whole thing to be a bit like when a loved one dies as you are grieving for your formerly bulletproof self.
This is a time to look after yourself both physically and emotionally and be a bit selfish I was lucky that I was 62 on diagnosis , semi retired with a retired hubby and no dependants.
I stayed in my pyjamas quite a bit after my surgeries ( mastectomy and then later after recovering from radiotherapy , DIEP flap reconstruction) and if the doorbell rang I’d just say “ sorry about the PJs I just had surgery”.
I told people I wasn’t ready for visitors but phone calls and texts were appreciated.
I used my hubby to sone extent as gatekeeper.
This website and forum is a wealth of information , it took me a while to work my way all around it.
I thoroughly recommend the podcasts by Dr Charlotte Tottman on here “ What you don’t know until you do” - she is a clinical psychologist specialising in cancer related distress who herself got breast cancer.
There is also a blog and book by a UK breast cancer surgeon Dr Liz O’Riordan who got breast cancer I found very helpful.
And you can post anything on here , we all “ get it” in a way people who have not faced this diagnosis never really can .
Take care 🌺