Mickey

Leonie, I had to laugh at your comment about your 30 year old daughters ... my kids used to be like that - they are now 44 & 42  (I'm 62) and know better.  Terry's girls 26 & 28 roll their eyes and ...."too much information" so we deliberately stir them every now and then, just for fun.

Mickey, I'm not making light of your question .. we all face this situation no matter what our age. In our circumstances, we have always had an active intimate relationship but after I was diagnosed (in January of this year) I seemed to withdraw into myself.  We didn't actually broach the subject, it was just mutually understood that things were changing and I was not "myself" (I would have liked to know just who I was, but that's another of lifes little mysteries)

After I had the mastectomy I was too sore to even change positions in bed much less anything else.  There was still the intimacy of cuddles etc, but we didn't feel the need to actually talk about it.  When the time was "right" we just both seemed to know and things just progressd naturally.  Whether this was through maturity (a polite way of saying old age!!!) or instinct I don't know, but no two situations are the same.

You may need to sit with your partner and talk things through, but please don't bottle it up inside and say nothing.  Neither of you are mind readers so an open dialogue is the best way.

Whatever you decide, don't forget we are here to chat and to support you when ever you need us.

Take care ..... Shirl