Meeting with Specialists Initially

Urgency doesn't make for manners sometimes. That said, you need and have a right to trust your team. I felt immediately very comfortable with my surgeon ( even when he was giving me bad news) but was a bit (a lot!!) taken aback by my proposed oncologist's matter of fact rendition of my planned treatment, including all the possible side effects. I felt as if I had hit the side of a bus. But I soon learned to value his honesty, his willingness to discuss things in detail and that his manner was about ensuring I  knew what was happening, and why, not about being cold. So give your team a shot to earn your trust - you can make changes when you know more about what's happening and what you want. Best wishes.