Hi @Skbr,
Its hardly an empathetic response and Im not surprised you feel upset. Sorry youve had this experience.
I had a seroma for a good while and the surgeon drained it when i saw him which was frequently for the first month or so. 30-40mls at each draining session is considered not large but can make you feel uncomfortable or give you pain if things start rubbing. i had my drain removed when it was below 100ml and before i left hospital after surgery so the drain removal isnt the issue probably. I didnt have a reconstruction so cant guess at the impact on that. My surgeon described a seroma like "growing a new boob". Did surgeon not leave someone else who can see you? Maybe the nurse can find soneone to ease your discomfit and your mind.
Hope you feel better soon.
Michele