I was diagnosed with invasive breast cancer a few months ago (ER positive, PR positive & HER2 positive) and am struggling to move forward with any of the treatment options offered to me. One of the reasons is logistics as I live in a remote part of QLD. My nearest hospital (2hr drive) doesn’t offer cold cap treatment and for mental health reasons (associated with an ongoing chronic condition) trying to keep my hair is super important to me. I’ve been offered cold caps in the public system in Brisbane but as I need weekly chemo treatment they want me to relocate there for approx 3 months chemo initially. Plus then back to Bris for a surgery and for 6wks rads (both of which have to be done in Bris). Apart from the financial implications, I just don’t know how workable it is to relocate with a young baby and without my partner (who has to stay home for work). I don’t even know where to begin with organising the logistics and have zero energy to coordinate this as am totally exhausted all the time. My surgeon and oncologist have been fantastic but they don’t seem to understand that I can’t just start chemo asap as these huge logistical hurdles need to be figured out first. Sorry for the long post but I’m really struggling xx

All good news that your sentinal node is clear as Her2 are very aggressive cancers. I am assuming your tumour must be large if they are suggesting chemo 1st.My biggest fear was dying and leaving my children. My sister died of breast cancer. My sons, teenagers, were not ready for any life without a Mum. I chose the most radical surgery offered to reduce my local recurrence risk and accepted chemo without hesitation. I live 500km from my surgeon. I chose mastectomy in hope of not needing radiotherapy so wouldnt need to stay sway from home for additional time. If my sister had been diagnosed earlier her outcome may have been very different.Most chemo unless dose dense is every 21 days. So I guess you could travel home in between. However with a baby this would be challenging and really you are going to need help. Perhaps a family member can accompany you?Do you have a breast care nurse? They may be able to assist you with information.https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspxI was devastated to lose my hair. In fact I can't think of a single woman I've met who found this process easy. It was harder than losing both breasts. It is though only a few months of your life in the big picture of it all. And that's the important part...your life. If you can't find a solution within a week or so you really shouldn't delay any longer. Her2 cancers are aggressive and can become metastatic in such a short time. My surgeon was relieved mine hadn't, as was I. My niece 14 years on (the daughter of my passed sister) is now 14 years cancer free of her her2 cancer. She was on the clinical trials of the same regime as me. She calls it liquid gold and is grateful to have been able to watch her babies become teenagers. Please don't delay having that opportunity. Kath x

I'm not sure if I've read this correctly, but are you saying that you were diagnosed with triple positive breast cancer a few months ago, and that you haven't had any treatment whatsoever, whilst you try to coordinate logistics so that you can try to keep your hair? I sincerely hope that your grade and stage haven't increased in the interim. My hair was very important to me too...I used to sit on it. I was known as Dave's wife, Jesse and Katie's mother and The Lady with The Long Hair. It was a huge part of my identity...huge...but not so important to me that it was worth dying for. Yes, I lost my hair, yes I was as bald as a billiard ball, yes a year later my family call me Albert (Einstein), due to me having a fluffy silver white fuzz exploding out from my head, but I'm alive and No Evidence of Disease. I just spent another Christmas with my only grandson, and have every chance of walking him to school on his first day in four years time. I sincerely hope you'll be walking your young baby to school on their first day.

The cold caps are not at all reliable. In a great many cases they do not work, or provide unsatisfactory results.Your reasons for wanting to keep your hair are your own business, but be very careful of pinning too much hope on an unpredictable process. None of us want to lose our hair. I've done it twice and while I can tell you it isn't as bad as you expect, you won't believe me--that is something we all have to work out for ourselves. I'm more comfortable walking down the street bald than I would be wearing shorts in public. I'd die of shame. Thankfully none of my treatment required me to bare my legs to a critical world.If you are going to take much more time figuring this out, the chemo may not be worth the trouble. We all have to make these decisions and most try desperately to bargain or deal their way out of unpalatable treatments. Maybe you need to talk to your oncologist about how the delay is affecting your prognosis and think about moving straight into surgery, rads and hormone therapy with the hope that it will be enough. Marg.

Hi there @Outra everyone on here looks out for each other and you will always get honest advice which is great. I understand the logistical obstacles you have and it would be harder with a baby in tow as well.1.did you say if you have a mastectomy you won’t need chemo? If this is the case since you are so concerned about your hair loss perhaps this would be a better choice for you? I had triple negative bc last year in my left boob all scans clear no lymph nodes involved aged 43. Mine was stage 2a grade 3. Had the left boob off then Took the other boob off 6 months later my choice (on the royal Brisbane very long wait list for recon) but I also had a mastectomy so i only needed chemo and not rads as well and i would of had to have the rads at the royal which would be a pain in the arse tracking there from where I live. I had chemo at Redcliffe and I wanted to do whatever it took to get the best outcome so no regrets for me. I had really long thick hair too but living far out weighed my hair loss to be homest and it’s grown back now. But I totally understand you feeling so attached to your hair it’s a big thing to lose it. 2. Or if you do have treatment Do you have any friends or family to help you with your baby ? If you’re feeling crook post treatment you will need that support especially if you are staying away from home you will need time to rest and recover these photos have t come up in order unfortunately but you will be able to figure it out the one with my daughter was after my first mastectomy then I cut I short prior to treatment then it fell out and I shaved it then there’s one with my scarve which looks ok then the one in the black and white dress is about a month ago. 3. If you try the cold caps and they aren’t successful could you not consider a wig ?. There’s plenty available from wig stores you could consider one that would be close to your own hair? Could that help you? Do you have a specialist you see for your chronic condition you speak of to help you too?4. Do you have any superannuation? If you do you can claim for travel expenses to brisbane as you would be travelling way over the threshold and I know there is accomodation available near the royal Brisbane if that’s where you are staying and I’m pretty sure it’s funded also you could check with qld cancer council or your breast care nurse or the social worker to arrange this. You can also claim your super but only if you have been on a Centrelink benefit for more than 26 weeks. I wasn’t able to claim anything as hubby worked and I lived inside the threshold. So I understand the financial implications all too well I understand it’s diffiult but I wouldn’t be delaying any treatment or surgery if you can help it. The quicker you start the quicker you can get on with life again. Hope this helps and all the very best whichever decision you make. The whole thing with breast cancer is shit no doubt about that but it is doable. Biggest hug. Margie xx

Thanks everyone for your supportive messages, making a decision on all of this is just so hard and completely overwhelming xox

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primek
Member
8 years ago
Just following up and wondered if you have been able to sort something out so you can start treatment. X
brightspace
Member
8 years ago
Hi Outra new year greetings..i hope you start you treatment as soon as possible
life is precious and be kind to yourself is a familar discussion on bc messages for us when we are in a difficult place.
All the best with your treatment
Bright in hope
SoldierCrab
Member
8 years ago
Hi @Outra

Hoping you get some answers today to help with logistics
SoldierCrab
Member
8 years ago
hi @Outra
I have been away just read your post...
what about Angel flight https//www.angelflight.org.au/AboutUs/FAQs
thought this might be an option....
You have a right to share why and what reasons you are choosing the course that will be your course of treatment we all do.

I agree with lots of the answers on the post and especially what @Zoffiel has said about the hard stuff. I am sure you would be eligible for isolated patients assistance scheme funding also.

I chose double mastectomy with no reconstruction, I had 9 months of chemo then 6 weeks of Rads this has given me 5 years with no evidence of disease.... was it easy NO it bloody well wasn't I have long term side effects from Chemo and Rads but I would do it all again.

I chose that as I have 2 boys with Autism and like @primek , I chose to be here for as long as I can for my kids.... talk to your social workers and the specialists you have for your chronic health condition and get it firm in your mind what you wish to do. I had to seek a 2nd opinion 4hrs drive away and I went with my gut instinct on what was right for me. my surgery and initial treatment meant 8hr round trips to see them.

Let us know how you are going.
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8 years ago
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Afraser
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8 years ago
That sounds much more positive, best wishes!
Outra
Member
8 years ago
Thanks @Crusty & @primek I spoke with Mummy’s wish a few weeks ago and they are ready to help once my treatment plan is confirmed. Now just waiting to hear back from the social worker, I think they must be on leave for xmas/ny.
Thanks so much for your support :)
DearB
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8 years ago
@primek <3. What a great share!!!
primek
Member
8 years ago
https://mummyswish.org.au/what-we-do/

Here is the link
Crusty
Member
8 years ago
You can contact mummyswish at mummyswish.org.au you'll need a gp letter. They may be able help with some extra info . There on holidays till jan 8 though.