Is this really happening? When do I wake up?

Hey Nadi, first a big hug, I'm sorry for the loss of your father in law and that your now on this roller coaster, having your hubby away at this time makes it harder for you.

it will settle down, things won't move so fast and you will eventually process it all, all those unknown answers to your questions slowly get answers, like the other lady's have said one step at a time, focus on getting thru surgery then tackle the next step.

i felt the same as you on diagnosis, my head was spinning, I literally had got the all clear from cervical cancer surgery then 5 days later was diagnosed with breast cancer, I felt like having a tantrum! It was a blur for the next two weeks, trying to get my head around it all, but I did get thru those initial weeks and so will you!

hang in there, use every support available to you, I hope surgery goes well for you xxx

Hi welcome to the site the ladies have said it all 1 day at a time.

I found having a diary helped knowing what was helpfull to keep track of what was next Take care and be kind to yourself it can be a long trip. Order your my journey kit if you haven't yet.x

Thanks Linda. I think I am going to have to force myself to take your very good advice. I am a planner and like to have lots of variables thought out in advance so I feel in control. I don't think that's going to work this time. I will just have to give myself permission to go with the flow and put faith in my medical team. Hope all goes well for you. Nadine

Thanks Robyn. I was just thinking to myself last night that I don't think I can do this - especially the surgery part even if it's not a mastectomy. But after reading posts here, I can see that many many women have done it, are doing it and while I probably won't like it, I have no choice but to do it too. I am glad to hear that you are feeling great! Take care Nadine

Thanks Lisa. It's great to know that there are communities like this! I think it will be great to be able to talk to other women who have gone or are going through what I am experiencing. Even hearing that it settles down after a treatment plan is agreed, makes me feel better. Thanks Nadine

Hi Nadi

I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I found my lump only 6 weeks ago. Within a week I was diagnosed, within 2 weeks I had had my surgery, a week after that I had my portacath surgery for chemo/herceptin, this week I met my oncologist and have CT, bone and heart scans lined up, and next week I start over 15 months of treatment. It has been an absolute blur and I can barely keep up.

The advice i've been given, that seems to work, is to try and take one day/step at a time. Don't get ahead of yourself. Don't google anything - come to this site or ask your doctor/nurse. Always take someone with you to appointments. Write down your questions. Have faith in your medical team.

Panic attacks are something I have been introduced to through all this too. They are absolutely awful.

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you - especially with everything that is going on in your life. There is never a good time for breast cancer. I have found this site wonderful - it's so good to know that i'm not the only one going through this awful experience and you can almost be guaranteed that someone has asked your questions here before.

Best wishes with everything! Don't hesitate to reach out if you need help.

Linda xx

Hello Nadi:)I had exactly the same as you 2 years ago this month! My husband was overseas when I was diagnosed.The first couple of weeks are a real blur,but as soon as you have had your appointment with the surgeon,you will find that things settle down.You will most likely be given a date for surgery,and in my case it was about 2 weeks after my appointment. I found that this time gave me some breathing space after the initial shock.I had a mastectomy followed by chemo,and now I am on  Tamoxifen.I have never felt better in my life:) Try to remember that breast cancer these days ,in most cases,is very treatable.Stay connected on here ,as you won't find a better place for help,advice and just general support.There is someone here 24/7. Take each day as it comes,and DONT look ahead.You can do this!! Cheers Robyn xox

Hi Nadi

So sorry you are going through this. The first days and weeks are a roller coaster as you get tested and wait for results. They move quickly once the bc is confirmed. It does settle down somewhat  once you have your treatment plan and know exactly what you are dealing with. It sounds like you have a great team who are onto treatment fast. Sorry that you are also having to deal with the loss of your father in law. All the best with the surgery appointment. Keep posting here, the community is a great place to be when you have questions or need some support.

Lisa xx