Hello.I was diagnosed on 25 March. I'd seen a lump on my right breast in the bathroom mirror and went to my GP. I've had a lumpectomy and sentinel nodes removed. They didn't expect to find anything in the nodes and that I'd just be doing radiation and then hormone blockers. But there was some cancer, so they now want me to do chemo too. However, the team don't feel they have enough information to decide how long for, so I'm having more nodes removed tomorrow. That'll be the third surgery for me since diagnosis as I had some internal bleeding after the first one and they had to go back in that night to sort it out.I did IVF for 5 years to have my daughter, who is now 10. I'm 50. I became a min-expert about IVF in those years, but I'm still reeling with all this new terminology and trying to learn what the hell is happening without freaking myself out even further. The five year survival stat does my head in because I'm struggling to cope with the idea that there's only an 85% chance that I'll be around for my little girl by the time she turns 15. I'm trying to stay positive and am keen to learn what I can be doing to improve my treatment outcomes, so looking forward to sharing in the wisdom that I hope to gain from this place.Thanks,R.

Hi @Melburnian,Sorry to hear about your surgery woes.Sounds like the goal posts have been moved a few times on you. That’s heightens the anxiety for sure. You are at the scary stage when you don’t know what to expect and you are still processing the cancer diagnosis.Your body has let you down and you don’t have control.It will improve when there’s a plan in place and you can deal with each treatment bit by bit.To think of the whole lot is overwhelming.Find something that quietens/relaxes you when your mind is racing eg. meditation,mindfullnesswalking,art etc.Statistics can do your head in but let them work in your favour and believe you are in the majority who live to old age. I’ve been through this crap journey twice- 2003 and then again in 2010(same breast) I’m fine and no more cancer. There are lots of us still kicking around(18yrs later for me)and enjoying life.Be prepared to cry at the most unexpected times and to have the occasional meltdown- all normal.Come back here to vent or ask questions. Big hug xx

Thanks everyone. I really needed to find some camaraderie and so glad you all came in to share some. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Hello @Melburnian welcome to the club no-one wants to join. The ladies on here have a wealth of knowledge. Be kind to yourself. I would just put one foot in front of the other to get through each step of the treatment. You can do it.

Hi @Melburnian I agree with Locksley, you have to not think too far ahead, and take it day by day, and to listen to your body, if you need to rest do it, it is ok to not finish all the housework as we used to do, do what you can when you can, and yes any research do it here as you are then getting the information from the ones that have gone through this journey.There is always help here. Cheryl

Hi @Melburnian no fun, hey, all this uncertainty. It can wreck your confidence a bit. The old ' overabundance of caution' thing in the early days of diagnosis can lead to situations like yours. The general approach is to take the least invasive actions first but, unfortunately, things can escalate uncomfortably quickly after that.Its a good time to stop looking at the stats. They are really just that; a series of numbers that may, or may not, reflect your personal situation. Even the stats themselves have been derived over many years and do not represent the current advances in treatment. Until you know more about your own version of horrible, it's really best to leave them alone. Easier said than done, I know. Like Tonya, I'm a two time winner of the booby prize and am still around 16 years after my first diagnosis. If you've learned to speak IVF, you'll learn to speak BC as well so don't worry about that too much either.Focus on the end game, survival. Ask questions when you need to (pretty much constantly) and be prepared to occasionally get different answers from different professionals (I'll bet you are familiar with that scenario too) Choose your team carefully--you have more choice than most realise--and build relationships with those who resonate with you. Good luck. MXX

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TonyaM
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5 years ago
Hi @Melburnian,
Sorry to hear about your surgery woes.Sounds like the goal posts have been moved a few times on you. That’s heightens the anxiety for sure. You are at the scary stage when you don’t know what to expect and you are still processing the cancer diagnosis.Your body has let you down and you don’t have control.It will improve when there’s a plan in place and you can deal with each treatment bit by bit.To think of the whole lot is overwhelming.Find something that quietens/relaxes you when your mind is racing eg. meditation,mindfullness
walking,art etc.
Statistics can do your head in but let them work in your favour and believe you are in the majority who live to old age. I’ve been through this crap journey twice- 2003 and then again in 2010(same breast) I’m fine and no more cancer. There are lots of us still kicking around(18yrs later for me)
and enjoying life.Be prepared to cry at the most unexpected times and to have the occasional meltdown- all normal.Come back here to vent or ask questions. Big hug xx
MicheleR
Member
5 years ago
Hi there @Melburnian,

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis and need for additional treatment. Im 49 and have 2 teenagers and to be honest thinking about my kids was the worst thing emotionally.

I found it better not to worry about statistics and get on with the business of getting well. Chemo isnt the most fun you'll ever have but its doable. It sounds like all the right things are happening and we have very good healthcare in Australia so you will be in good hands. Once they know more you will feel more reasured that the treatment plan is in place.

Lean on us all here when you need.

Michele

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