Hi @Tillsall67,
Welcome to the forum. You will find so much information, love and warmth from everybody here.
It's all a blur at the start and sometimes it takes us by surprise if you are generally a strong positive person. I didn't know I could react like that. I remember too well that "yep, I got this to collapsing on the ground in a mess in the blink of an eye". Bloody awful.
I too found the axilliary lump first. The breast tumour could never be felt and we chased it for a month. MRI was the only thing that could track it. Other scans were all clear.
The short version is, I ended up with 25mm l/node tumour with 5 positive and 19mm breast tumour. So Lumpectomy, axilliary node clearance, chemo and radiation.
Surgery went well, I had full strength back in my arm after about 6wks, no problems with lymphodema or anything else. I handled chemo pretty good, kept my hair with a cold cap, worked, help run my farm and did all my normal things. No problems with radiation either a few little skin problems but that was it and no fatigue. Sometimes it's nowhere near as bad as what our brains like to conjure up for us. Try not to DR Google too much.
You are going to get bombarded with information from here on. It's all going to sound scary. However, once you have a treatment plan in action you will fell somewhat more in control. I think that is one of the hardest things, the feeling of a lack of control.
It is perfectly normal to be up and down and all over the place. It's also normal to think that every little ache and pain is IT.
Distract yourself as much as you can for the moment.
We are all here to listen, help, encourage and hold your hand the whole way if you need us. We've felt it, we get it.
Keep in touch lovley.
xoxoxo