I am scared ....

Hi breastcancerrea..., (sorry I don't know your name) you mention wanting to keep a handle on your femininity during chemo, a problem we share when bald or with very short hair during/after chemo..

After the experience of being greeted by the Qantas club barista "Hello Sir and what can I do for you?" which rather upset me at the time, I started using jewelery esp big dangly earings for this, and pretty scarves, and sometimes a fringe (you can buy these very cheaply, and having a tiny bit of hair can make the world of difference. But my mainstay was  lovely celtic hanging earings and other pretty, feminine but fairly bold ear jewelery helped me to keep a handle on my feminity even when I did not feel up to makeup, and made it easier for baristas and other strangers to  see that I am female.