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Coco65
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8 years ago

I am in shock

I was diagnosed yesterday 2/06 and I'm feeling a lot of different emotions.
The hardest part is having to tell my kids, all teenagers and one has taken it particularly hard, so whilst I want to just fall apart I am staying strong for them so as not to scare them.
My surgeon tells me it is very early Breast Cancer detected by a Mammogram, I am 52 and married to a wonderful supportive man.
I have no lump and if I had't had the Mammogram I wouldn't have known, I am one of 11 children and 9 of them are girls so that 1 in 8 women statistic has hit the nail on the head.
I am so scared and I joined this group in the hope of getting some much needed support from other women that have been through this.
I am waiting to be booked in for my biopsy and he tells me I will then need surgery to remove it followed by 3-5 weeks of radiation everyday.

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    Coco65
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi Zoffiel
    Your right about the waiting game!
    I am still trying to deal with everything, it must be so frustrating that you have to go through it all over again x
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    Zoffiel
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hey @Coco65 It sucks, it really does. You are at that terrible time of 'hurry up and wait'. Things seem to either happen too quickly or too slowly and the goal posts have an annoying habit of moving mid game.

     I'm a bit of an old campaigner--I had a recurrence last year after 10 years disease free--and my best advice is that shabby old adage, one day at a time.

    Our brains go into overdrive and our bodies rebel, but the cancer train moves at its own pace. Good luck, Coco. Marg xxx
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    Coco65
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi Mkitty68
    I have ordered my journey kit and requested the usb for teens. 
    Thank you for your support and I hope your doing ok x
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    Coco65
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi nikkid, that's exactly what they found on my Mammogram the Microcalcifications!   The wait to have the biopsy done is agonising, I just want to get it done so I am absolutely positive it is what the surgeon says it is and not worse.
    I am so glad I joined this forum as I already feel a bit more relaxed. xx


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    LMK74
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi coco65, welcome but sorry you're here too. The fact yours has been caught early is great. If surgery and radiation are all that's needed that is a blessing. I was diagnosed January and an doing chemo at the moment followed by surgery and radiation. It is very scary to have this,but everyone here is so supportive and able to offer advice as everyone is at different stages in this process. Maybe the kids just need time for it to sink in and when you have a clearer picture of the situation they  will settle. It's a lot to take in for sure, but I'm wishing you all the best.
    Lisa x
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    nikkid
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi @Coco65, I was where you are now back in February 2016. No symptoms; no lumps or bumps....just those nasty little calcifications on a mammogram. It was very very early BC - but because mine was multi focal, I was recommended to have a mastectomy. All of this just around my birthday!

    Now, 15 months later, I've had the left vertical skin sparing mastectomy; had a tissue expander inserted; and 9 weeks ago had a DIEP Reconstruction. I've been on Tamoxifen the whole time.

    I understand the whirlwind you're going through - but do know you will make it; and we will be here to support you through.

    Nikki xx
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    MKitty68
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi @Coco65 sorry that you have to go through this, welcome to the forum, all of the ladies here are wonderfully supportive so you have come to the right place. 
    I am currently 11 days post mastectomy & mine wouldn't have been found other than slight changes & getting a mammogram. It is a very frightening time for you, but good that they have found it early. 
    It's all a bit of a whirlwind once you get that diagnosis, it's wonderful that your husband is supportive. There are groups here I believe for teenagers, and in the My Journey kit they can send a thumb drive for them. I hope that they can also find some support for them somewhere, it can be a difficult thing for them to get their head around too.