I am in shock
I was diagnosed yesterday 2/06 and I'm feeling a lot of different emotions. The hardest part is having to tell my kids, all teenagers and one has taken it particularly hard, so whilst I want to just ...
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@Coco65 Welcome! So sorry you are here, but you've got a wonderful supportive network here, so be assured of that. There is so much knowledge and experience and empathy all in the one place, as loved ones are great but they don't understand the complexity of all of it!
Like you, I never had a lump it was detected in a Mammogram back in 2011 it, biopsies, then lumpectomy it was early only DCIS but had radiation and Tamoxifen for 4yrs. Unfortunately a recurrence in 2015 Stage 3 Grade 2 aggressive same spot, biopsies, lumpectomies..no radiation as cant have it twice so had chemo. In feb opted for a mastectomy/diep flap recon like @nikkid and haven't looked back. Am 2yrs clear and enjoying my new reconstruction with 1 more surgery to go.
What I want to say to you is, it is gutwrenching and overwhelming, I was 6 months out of my marriage with 2 children my first diagnosis. It was so hard on them and even harder the 2nd time. Thing is, I don't know why they do a biopsy, they just don't give you correct pathology and always end up having a lumpectomy, this is the only way you will have correct and definitive pathology and then a plan. They can't speculate at this point and definitely not with a biopsy. So as hard as it is, pull yourself back right now, one thing at a time. My first biopsy they missed it!!!!! useless! in fact the many more were useless too. Hindsight years later are a wonderful thing.
So hang in there and keep communicating with your Specialist this is the hard part not knowing what is what yet, but remember it is very early, so odds are you may not even need radiation, try not to rush ahead, sometimes I think they say too much.
Hugs Melinda xo
Like you, I never had a lump it was detected in a Mammogram back in 2011 it, biopsies, then lumpectomy it was early only DCIS but had radiation and Tamoxifen for 4yrs. Unfortunately a recurrence in 2015 Stage 3 Grade 2 aggressive same spot, biopsies, lumpectomies..no radiation as cant have it twice so had chemo. In feb opted for a mastectomy/diep flap recon like @nikkid and haven't looked back. Am 2yrs clear and enjoying my new reconstruction with 1 more surgery to go.
What I want to say to you is, it is gutwrenching and overwhelming, I was 6 months out of my marriage with 2 children my first diagnosis. It was so hard on them and even harder the 2nd time. Thing is, I don't know why they do a biopsy, they just don't give you correct pathology and always end up having a lumpectomy, this is the only way you will have correct and definitive pathology and then a plan. They can't speculate at this point and definitely not with a biopsy. So as hard as it is, pull yourself back right now, one thing at a time. My first biopsy they missed it!!!!! useless! in fact the many more were useless too. Hindsight years later are a wonderful thing.
So hang in there and keep communicating with your Specialist this is the hard part not knowing what is what yet, but remember it is very early, so odds are you may not even need radiation, try not to rush ahead, sometimes I think they say too much.
Hugs Melinda xo