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Mrs_H1
8 years agoMember
Hi @LoriB, what a crazy roller coaster this disease puts us on. I'm 29 with triple positive BC in both breasts and spread to right lymph nodes. I've just finished 5 months of chemo and gearing up for a double mastectomy in November, 4 days after my 30th birthday.
I find myself nodding along as read your post, yep, been there, felt that. I still find it hard with the "stay positive" attitude I get from well meaning friends and family but I can't avoid my reality. This situation sucks. I wish I didn't have cancer, I wish I didn't have to have the chemo, I wish more than anything I didn't have to have my breasts removed. Yes, they can just bolt new ones on but it's not as simple or as walk in the park as that sounds. Well meaning people who say that have never had to face it.
Feel what you feel, ride it out and your acceptance (for lack of a better word) of the situation will get better. The carpet has been pulled out from under you, of course it's going to take time to get used to the new ground. However, you will manage however you can and get through it. No one knows what will come later but for know don't worry about that, that's future Lori's problem.
I still have lots of ups and downs. I cry. I laugh til I cry. I make lots of inappropriate jokes about my mortality. I just do what I can to get through it and gently remind my family and friends that this is what I need to do to cope with this crazy situation. We're all here for each other. Cheers, Jen.
I find myself nodding along as read your post, yep, been there, felt that. I still find it hard with the "stay positive" attitude I get from well meaning friends and family but I can't avoid my reality. This situation sucks. I wish I didn't have cancer, I wish I didn't have to have the chemo, I wish more than anything I didn't have to have my breasts removed. Yes, they can just bolt new ones on but it's not as simple or as walk in the park as that sounds. Well meaning people who say that have never had to face it.
Feel what you feel, ride it out and your acceptance (for lack of a better word) of the situation will get better. The carpet has been pulled out from under you, of course it's going to take time to get used to the new ground. However, you will manage however you can and get through it. No one knows what will come later but for know don't worry about that, that's future Lori's problem.
I still have lots of ups and downs. I cry. I laugh til I cry. I make lots of inappropriate jokes about my mortality. I just do what I can to get through it and gently remind my family and friends that this is what I need to do to cope with this crazy situation. We're all here for each other. Cheers, Jen.