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I only know my biopsy results, triple negative hormones, metastatic invasive breast cancer. 4cm in my lymph nodes & 3cm 3 o’clock left breast. I’m currently waiting to hear the full diagnosis & discu...
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Dear@Jennie_Lou
No one can pretend this is what you want or that being here is a good thing but welcome nevertheless. The shock can carry you through for quite a while. Many have no inkling anything is amiss. Being positive for your family and friends is common too - it helps immensely if they can be positive for you, but their initial response is often pain and worry. What to do? Just as you are doing - get all the info you can, and then ask all the questions you can about treatment and options. Sadly bc is common and yes, many like me are several years past diagnosis and doing fine. But it can be a hard road, so my advice would be: keep your energies for the things that really matter; take one step at a time, it’s easy to be overwhelmed by things that may only ever exist in your imagination; keep remembering that no one knows what their future will be, whatever we had planned - the only thing we can be sure of is that life goes forward. Keep your sights on the future and being well in that future. Once you know what treatment you will have, it’s easier to plan at least the next few weeks. If you have a calm other person to take with you to your first consultations, that can be useful, it’s hard to take everything in at first. The network can be an effective sounding board, release valve and source of sensible information, so use it. Best wishes.
No one can pretend this is what you want or that being here is a good thing but welcome nevertheless. The shock can carry you through for quite a while. Many have no inkling anything is amiss. Being positive for your family and friends is common too - it helps immensely if they can be positive for you, but their initial response is often pain and worry. What to do? Just as you are doing - get all the info you can, and then ask all the questions you can about treatment and options. Sadly bc is common and yes, many like me are several years past diagnosis and doing fine. But it can be a hard road, so my advice would be: keep your energies for the things that really matter; take one step at a time, it’s easy to be overwhelmed by things that may only ever exist in your imagination; keep remembering that no one knows what their future will be, whatever we had planned - the only thing we can be sure of is that life goes forward. Keep your sights on the future and being well in that future. Once you know what treatment you will have, it’s easier to plan at least the next few weeks. If you have a calm other person to take with you to your first consultations, that can be useful, it’s hard to take everything in at first. The network can be an effective sounding board, release valve and source of sensible information, so use it. Best wishes.