Hi Overwhelmed. The bit where you said "I know I will get myself back but wonder if I will ever totally be me again" resonated with me. It's how I felt, and still feel tbh.
I was diagnosed early last December, went straight to white hot anger for a couple of weeks, and then dissolved into tears about several aspects of this disease, and quite specifically about the change that was being forced upon me. My breast surgeon was very kind, but very clear, that this experience does change you.
It's five months later now and while I still struggle with the ongoing changes, it's got a bit easier. I'm having counselling which helps, and talking to my BreastCare nurse has been excellent too. Do you have access to one yet?
I started to use meditation apps too (settling on Headspace) which I've found very helpful. In fact just out of hospital this afternoon, trying to have a sleep and failing, I used it to put me out for a very solid 75 minute nanna nap!
Chemo scares the shit out of almost all of us so there's no use me saying don't be afraid (I had a massive full on panic attack two nights before my first cycle). We all react differently to the drugs, and mostly the medicos have good ones to counterract a lot of the side effects. It's not fun but you'll get through. Keep remembering why you're doing it and that it's temporary. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time. Accept all offers of help, you'll experience great love.
I've had to hide a fair bit from the family due to my particular circumstances, and have found this forum to be a warm and supportive place that has been an ideal pressure valve on many an occasion.
I had TC chemo and tried the cold cap but it didn't work for me. As it turned out I've quite enjoyed being bald and wearing all my different hats and bandanas! Showers have been fantastic, the sensation of water onto the bare scalp is lovely. And now my hair is growing back!
We're all here for any questions at any time. You might also like to use the search bar on a particular subject. The accumulated wisdom of this hive mind is a wondrous thing! A big bear hug to you, K xox