Thanks for everyones replies, it truely helps and has given me new questions to ask my surgeon and oncologist. I went into my post op appointment abit unprepared as the week before that i received good news about not having the cancer spread by the doctor so chemo was off the table, but there were tests results that hadn't come back yet, so Monday's news of one node being affected really through me off :( Its actually just one big blur and cant remember much of what was said.) I am now creating a long list of questions that i am definitely taking with the any specialist appointment from now on. There are a few terms in this post that i cant even remember hearing or thinking of asking, so its really helpful. I think i will go the chemo route in the end, need to do it for My Family and Myself to do anything to get better.