So sorry to see you here @repascoe .. but glad that you've found us xx
On the blue banner at the top of the page, you'll see 'groups' ... click on that link and then ask to join the Private Reconstruction group AND the Flat Chat group. You'll be able to have private discussions with members there and even see pics of both re obstruction and aesthetic flat closures.
Ask any question ...as there are NO silly questions.
With so many recalls and problems with gel inserts, some choose to go flat (less surgery in the long run too.)
Wishing you all the best with your decision making xx