feeling super sad and crying all the time
Hi Everyone, I was diagnosed in April with her 2 breast cancer and had a lumpectomy 10 weeks ago. At the time I coped quite well I am 53 and although surprised at the time and shocked I seem to handl...
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Hi Byrnes,
Like you, I am newly diagnosed with a HERS positive tumour and I understand your tears. I started crying when the surgeon examined my lump and told me that she was worried, it continued through the series of mammograms, biopsies, ultrasounds and further examinations, worsened when I received my results (despite expecting the diagnosis) and then followed with days and night where I seemed to cry continuously wondering how I could have so many tears inside me.
It just kept coming, wave after wave of shock and grief. But support has helped and family and friends have been wonderful. I have accepted all hugs on offer, unusual for me as I'm generally a little stand-offish, and have found it very comforting to let in the kindness and care that those around me feel. Slowly, slowly the tears have settled and now allowed me to focus forward on what I need to do to get better.
From my own experience I would only suggest to let people in, soak it all up, absorb the loving care around you and allow others to help carry your pain for a while. I am glad to hear that you have booked in for a counsellor and hope that this person and space helps you to work through your situation and explore your choices and decisions. And I hope that you find (as I have) that there is some clarity and peace beyond the tears.
One more thing, I have been using a meditation app on my phone. The one that I use is called Buddhify and I have found it to be invaluable in helping settle my mind and body at any and all times of the day and night. Might be worth a try for you?
I really wish you all the best and hope things feel a little brighter soon.
Fiona2
Like you, I am newly diagnosed with a HERS positive tumour and I understand your tears. I started crying when the surgeon examined my lump and told me that she was worried, it continued through the series of mammograms, biopsies, ultrasounds and further examinations, worsened when I received my results (despite expecting the diagnosis) and then followed with days and night where I seemed to cry continuously wondering how I could have so many tears inside me.
It just kept coming, wave after wave of shock and grief. But support has helped and family and friends have been wonderful. I have accepted all hugs on offer, unusual for me as I'm generally a little stand-offish, and have found it very comforting to let in the kindness and care that those around me feel. Slowly, slowly the tears have settled and now allowed me to focus forward on what I need to do to get better.
From my own experience I would only suggest to let people in, soak it all up, absorb the loving care around you and allow others to help carry your pain for a while. I am glad to hear that you have booked in for a counsellor and hope that this person and space helps you to work through your situation and explore your choices and decisions. And I hope that you find (as I have) that there is some clarity and peace beyond the tears.
One more thing, I have been using a meditation app on my phone. The one that I use is called Buddhify and I have found it to be invaluable in helping settle my mind and body at any and all times of the day and night. Might be worth a try for you?
I really wish you all the best and hope things feel a little brighter soon.
Fiona2